If it’s any consolation, I will forever picture us having kleine Frustuck at the sidewalk cafe from your house. You will always be that person to me, and you will always be that person within you. It’s natural to adapt to your environment, we are nothing more than mammals after all. Embrace the new fish pond and know that no matter where you live, you are all of the past as well as the present.

I hate that urban planning in the US makes living more like you can in Europe nearly impossible. :/

Hello…I found your blog through Megan’s “Megolomaniac” blog, and have to admit I’ve only read this post so far.

But I decided to comment because it hit home, as I lived last year in Spain, one country where this European lifestyle is taken to the max. Sunday afternoons can really only be spent eating and drinking in plazas, “no pasa nada” chillness is the norm, kids live a totally different life than their American counterparts–they live in strollers, they rarely get in cars (mostly due to lack of parking, more than eco-consciousness), they can be out with their parents at 10pm on a school night. I didn’t have a car, so I had no choice but to shop for what I needed and plan walking into my day.

And returning, I wanted to keep my hard-earned Spanish patience. I wanted to stress less. I wanted to walk more. But it’s hard. Sometimes it’s a nightmare.

But the little things, like that lettuce, can lead to moments of Euro-like simplicity bliss. I keep searching for those.

Sounds similar to what we’ve experienced back in Montana. My daughter’s babyhood now is so, so different than Connery’s was when we were in Prague. I have a stroller, but it’s the kind I can snap the carseat into, because that’s her primary mode of transportation. I hate it. But we don’t really have other options. We live in a place with few good sidewalks, and the stores are out in the boonies (comparatively) or all the way in the neighboring “big” town. I worry that my daughter’s brain growth is being stunted from staring at the back of the seat while we drive back and forth to the places we need to go…

It is tough. My wife and I moved from Brooklyn to Minneapolis last year and have slowly adopted some of the things we swore we wouldn’t, like using the car when walking will suffice, food shopping at Target, etc. Granted, we do these things in moderation, though I would chalk our/your changes to also having a toddler. Our son is unbelievably active and sometimes the path of least resistence is, well, easier. Overall, it sounds like you have a young family and accomdodate that accordingly. But I would rather live the NYC/Germany way any day of the week…